Essentially what Solomon is saying is this: if you hate correction, and discipline the sacred part of you, you're treating it as if it's common; that God has something so much bigger for you, but what God has for you requires you to be open to feedback. It requires you to be open to other people's correction and ideas and truths. It requires you to be willing to listen to someone else's point of view about you; and if you despise that, you're only hating yourself. You're only treating yourself, who is a sacred person with a God idea around their life, you're only treating that, as if it's common. Oh, by the way, if you're mean, you could take what I'm saying here, and use that as a license to beat people up, because you're the guarder of truth or something.
This has to be out of relationship. If you can't tell me their children's names, you have no right to speak into their life. This has to be out of relationship. It's not meant for anybody to powering-up on someone else. Let's talk through some of these things. All of us have blind spots. A blind spot, by definition, means you cannot see it without someone else's help; so even if you went to a counsellor. the counsellor wouldn't be able to help you with it, because if you don't report it properly, the counsellor doesn't know what to do. It's a blind spot. There are things in all of our lives, that the only way we can get over them, is being open to the feedback that the people closest to us see. It's creating an environment, where you have friends that you could look at and say: come on, tell me what you see. Tell me what you see, come on, tell me what you see, I'm open to it.
Now you have to be very selective with this. Do not start a Facebook blog for this purpose; and you've got to be very careful who you tell your darkness to, depending on the darkness. For instance, if I were you, I wouldn't tell your wife that you have a lust problem. Don't make her carry that. She doesn't understand it. She'll be very hurt by it. I've been taking Krav Maga, which is I've been doing personal training to stay in shape, and I've been doing Israeli Special Forces up-close fighting training. It's called Krav Maga, and the week before I left Brisbane, they were teaching us how to defend knives. If you're going to admit to your wife you have a lust problem, I would suggest you take that course first. You don't want to do that - but you ought to have four guy friends that you could talk to about it. You ought to be open.
It's a fool is open to everybody, but I could tell you this. If you don't have four people in your life, who know all of your darkness, then darkness is overtaking you. If you don't have four people in your life, that know everything about you, and still like you, then darkness is overtaking you. If you're so guarded, that there's not four people you can name, who know everything there is to know about you, then darkness is overtaking you. I have four guys in my life at least, that are all old enough to be my dad, and all of them know everything about me.
The reason was, I was so guarded; because I'm a bit, you know - when you're up on stages all the time, you get all these personal questions, and then you get more and more and more guarded. You would not believe the questions people ask me about my personal life. You could not believe it; and so you get more and more and more guarded, and what I realised was that was slowly starting to destroy me. So I purposely, and with full intention, set out and I found guys, that are all old enough to be my dad, that I could be open and honest and tell my darkness to. I could confess the sins I wanted to commit, before I actually did them; and what I found was creating environments like that allows that sin to lose it's hold of my life, because I'm putting it into the light over and over and over and over again. It's a very powerful, powerful thing.
Sometimes you can't see the things that are closest. Golf's a great example of this. If you're a golfer you understand this - you cannot tell where your golf club is, without someone else looking at your golf swing - you can't. That's why every golfer in the world thinks he looks like Tiger, but his ball is going everywhere. It takes someone else giving feedback. That's why millions and millions and millions of dollars of new golf clubs are bought every year, because people are convinced it's not the golf swing, it's the golf club. I used to have PINGs, and then I started hitting them bad - and it couldn't have been my swing, because my swing was like Tiger - so I switched from PING golf clubs to Callaway golf clubs; and I hit them worse because Callaway golf clubs are less forgiving than PING golf clubs.