Rescuing, where a parent takes up the role of the child well beyond what they should do, and they begin to take their responsibilities on. The child feels I'm not good enough, I can't do anything right, so rescuing, where a parent over-rescues a child creates a huge issue in them.
Here's another one, financial poverty. Poverty in a family or poverty in your background can bring great shame, because often when you go to school you see these kids with all this stuff and then they begin to point out or make fun of, or ridicule you and what you have or don't have. Tremendous shame can take place. A lot of people have been driven to success in finances, well beyond what they should have, because they were shamed as a child at school - recognise that one? It's a major one that one.
Here's another one, a teacher's ridicule in front of peers. Many times in schools teachers instead of actually being able to encourage, lift and build, they ridicule or they say words that make the child belittled in front of their peers. I can remember being belittled in front of my peers. I can remember it as clearly as if it was yesterday, that's how vivid it was. A teacher standing over me at the age of 17, shouting at me, because I couldn't understand something. You don't forget it, it shames you. Because they're yelling, the whole classes attention is on who? On you and your lack of ability in some kind of way. It's appalling, absolutely appalling. People are shamed and belittled, and then they struggle to overcompensate and try and cope with what they've taken on-board see, so ridicule in front of peers.
Another place it takes place is peer ridicule at school, one of the worst places. That's why if you can build a strong young people's culture, and you've got two or three of you standing together, you can be quite supportive in school. But often in school kids are merciless. They will pick on a physical defect, and they'll ridicule the person. Maybe there's some kind of mental handicap or disability. They pick on it, and they're merciless. Maybe it's because of your colour. Kids are shocking the way they'll do this. They'll speak, and then the child becomes ashamed of who they are, and then don't want to go to school, hate it.
Some people are shamed because of their gender. I know and have prayed for many women who are ashamed to be a woman. If only they were a man, they would be treated different in life. If only they were a man, their dad would have really connected with them, and done something with them, and invested into their life, so people can be totally ashamed of being a woman. A woman's ashamed of being a woman, she will then conceal her femininity, her true identity is covered over, as she tries to compensate. You probably know people like that.
Divorce can cause great shaming. In the era when my father grew up, if a divorce took place, it was put in the newspapers, and advertised as a shaming public ridicule, see? It's got a lot less now, it's become more acceptable, but there's still a tremendous shame that children feel when their parents break up, and they're caught in the middle of the conflict and fight between one and the other. They live with shame, something's not right about me, I probably am to blame for this. Getting some of the ideas? There's a whole heap of them. Male chauvinism's another one. Male chauvinism's a major one in our culture. Male chauvinism is an arrogant pride by insecure males. They try to make out they're better than women and women feel it; sexist comments, sexist treatment. All of this, actually what it does is, it devalues and dehumanises the woman. It makes them feel like they're a sex object, rather than a person. That means they're being shamed, and women feel that deeply.
I've prayed for many women who wept and wept and wept, feeling shamed, because they were treated just like a sex object. Many men who do not value their wives, or learn how to cultivate love, cultivate intimacy in marriage, then just have a sexual relationship with their wife - she feels cheapened and used by that, and feels shamed by it. This is what goes on in our society, this is what goes all around, and we need to recognise this invasion of our lives by shame, where it comes, how it comes, and then begin to work to deal with it. When I was in Taiwan, the Lord spoke to me how there was something they did in the culture there, which shamed people. I began to just speak prophetically about it. Before I knew it, I had about 80 people up there weeping and waling, because they had been shamed by being scolded.